Rules & Etiquette
It's sometimes difficult for someone new to the lifestyle to understand all the in's and out's. It all comes down to respect. Don't assume because we're all in the lifestyle we're all ready to have sex with you! Relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy; just as you wish to be treated. One of our most important rules is WHAT HAPPENS AT OUR PARTIES STAY AT THE PARTY! If you have a good time then tell others so they may wish to become members. If you don't have a good time please tell us why! We cannot fix a problem if we're unaware one exists. We understand some couples don't like house parties and that's OK!
No expectations, No disappointments. A party is only as fun as it's attendees so mingle and have some fun.
People are interested in you, so relax and be yourself. However, this does not mean you can be disrespectful to others. If you are you'll be asked to leave immediately and your membership revoked.
We all wish to be treated with courtesy, kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is treating people the way we ourselves wish to be treated.
Leave the drama at the door. Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.
Attitude - is everything. If you are not open-minded enough to"possibly" see your spouse with someone else then our parties are not for you. Our parties are always a no pressure atmosphere. Take it easy and have fun - enjoy yourself. Remember, no means no (the first time). Make the most of it and keep it fun, you will enjoy yourself more! Keep in mind, if you cause a scene and others become uncomfortable you wil be asked to leave and your membership suspended for 30 days or canceled.
Respond to all invitations
RSVP means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting a party is trying to read your silence. If you RSVP and then don't show without canceling your membership could be suspended.
Not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Just be aware of signs that your partner, as well as others, are relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots.
Don't be pushy
If you are interested in playing with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. Everyone has the right to say "NO" to anyone, without explanation.
Only do what is right for YOU
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.
Drugs & Alcohol
Any form of drug is prohibited! If you need drugs to have fun at a lifestyles party you're definitely in the wrong place. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging to the point you become belligerent to others and become a nuisance you'll be asked to leave and removed as a member. What you do on your own time is up to you. However - to protect Thumper's and it's members - if you are convicted of any crime involving alcohol or drug use and your name becomes public we have the option of removing your membership. Privacy & discretion must - and WILL be maintained at all times.
We are not a business and therefore not everyone who applies becomes a member, and we have the option to remove a membership should we feel it's just not a good fit for us or for you. If a membership is either denied or later revoked don't take it personally. There has to be "chemistry" amongst the membership for a group such as Thumper's to be successful.
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